How to use a dildo alone or with a partner

The dildo is one of the most famous sex toys online. Although there are many other styles that often provide stronger orgasms than a simple phallic-shaped shaft that recreates a man's erect penis, the dildo is still the classic, traditional and often the first adult sex toy someone buys.

Masturbating with just your hands gets boring quickly. Sex with a stud lover is always at the forefront of sexual fantasies. We feel sexually aroused and crave stimulation. It is the natural erotic impulse to want to have sex. This is why dildos are so loved. You can fulfill your secret and naughty fantasy without having to be in public.

What's the point of a dildo?

There are probably a billion different types of dildos on the market and so many reasons why someone might want to buy and use one. To name a few:

affirming gender identity or sexuality, or experiencing gender euphoria
to make penetration possible when it would not otherwise be due to the partner's genitalia, erectile dysfunction, relationship status, or partner availability
explore double penetration, alone or with a partner
to increase the size of an existing phallus

Ready to buy a dildo? Discover your preferences and needs first
Here are some of the best types of dildos that provide a good experience and are popular choices for recreating penetrative sex during solo or partnered play.

If it's for anal, make sure it has a base

Ready to read the most important sentence in this entire piece? If you are going to use it for anal sex, it needs to have a base wider than the thickest part of the dildo. The rectum doesn't have a point of no return like the vagina, so you need something to keep it anchored outside the body.

Find out if you want it to be realistic

For some people, the penis is an incredibly erotic symbol. And there are others for whom using or being penetrated by a realistic dildo is an incredible affirmation of their gender identity or sexual orientation. Many people don't want to be penetrated by something that looks like a penis or wear something that looks like a penis. If you decide you want something different, you'll have lots of fun options to consider.

Did you know that there are even dildos shaped like swords, tentacles and others?

It's worth mentioning: the most realistic dildos have a pronounced head. This can increase the chances of hitting the G or P spot, but you may want to consider something smaller if you plan on using it for anal play for beginners.

Think about whether you like vibration

If you buy a non-vibrating dildo and want it to vibrate, you can always add a vibrating cock ring that will send vibration down the shaft to both the user and the receiver.

Start small

Especially if you plan on using it for anal. No matter how small it looks online, in your hand or on the store shelf, it will look bigger. If you are new to anal penetration, it is recommended to start with something that is no more than 3 cm in diameter at the thickest insertable point. The same goes for people who are new to vaginal penetration. Otherwise, if you already know you like girth, you can start a little wider.

Dildo recommendations

The best dildo for bondage is not the same dildo as the best dildo for double penetration, which is not the best dildo for oral sex, which is not... You get the idea.

For prostate stimulation: It is recommended to choose a dildo with a large curve and bulbous tip, like THIS ONE:

(https://www.mistercock.pt/pt/dildo-realistico-basix-19-cm-2265242. html)

For G-spot stimulation: A short, sturdy dildo with a pronounced head like THIS:

For double penetration: you can use two separate dildos, you can connect two didlos with a double-sided suction cup or you can get a U-shaped double-ended dildo, like THIS ONE

If the user or recipient has a larger butt: You may want to go further than you think you need. If the receiver has a large ass, a few centimeters will not be inserted, so you can opt for a larger size like 

To increase the size of your penis: This also changes the sensation that the owner of the penis will feel during sex, but you can opt for a penis sleeve like THIS

Make sure there is no porous material

Porous is another word for “can retain bacteria even after being washed”. Since a dildo is likely to get into a crevice full of bacteria, you want something that can stay completely, 100% clean. Otherwise, each use may introduce bacteria that can cause a sore throat, urinary tract infection (UTI), or yeast infection. Non-porous materials include:

⦁ medical grade silicone
⦁ ABS plastic
⦁ stainless steel
⦁ glass

Silicone is usually the top recommendation for first-time dildo owners and users. Stainless steel and glass are great options for those who:

⦁ find penetration painful
⦁ want to explore the temperature game
⦁ enjoy a heavier pleasure product