Sex education is a delicate and very scarce subject, considering that we are already in 2022 and many guys who are discovering sexuality don't know much about gay sex, properly.
Even experienced people can sometimes lack basic knowledge about various techniques or positions. So here you will find 5 sex tips for gay men that can clear things up for everyone, no matter how experienced they are!
1. Use condoms
This is the number one sexual advice you should take from anyone who has ever had sex. Using condoms is one of the best things you can do to prevent HIV and other STIs. If you're changing partners frequently or you've just met someone you've met recently, make sure you use protection.
If you are going to have anal sex, use condoms – you can find different types of condoms, including those with extra lubricant built in.
2. lubricate
Lube is essential for anal sex, especially for beginners. You may feel uncomfortable or even feel pain when your anus is not lubricated enough. A proper anal lubricant will help you relax, get comfortable and enjoy the process. You can use silicone-based and water-based lubricants.
Also, using lubricants is the only way to ensure that you won't hurt your partner by using too much force. Always use plenty of lubricant to help it glide, and it will also prevent any tearing or friction damage.
Silicone-based lubricants tend to last longer than water-based lubricants because they don't dry as quickly and this makes them perfect for long sessions of anal sex. However, if you decide to use a silicone-based lubricant, make sure it is safe to use with condoms.
3. Try positions
You can try many different positions when having anal sex, but there are two main ones – the doggy-style and the missionary position. The former is particularly popular for several reasons:
your partner penetrates from behind, which means he can control the speed and depth of penetration.
It stimulates the prostate, which is exceptionally pleasurable for some people.
You can easily use a toy on yourself while being penetrated.
Try different positions and take the time to get to know each other's bodies better and see which positions are best for you and your partner.
4. Get ready for anal sex
Don't expect to have great anal sex from the start. You need to learn to relax your anus beforehand. You can start with easier sexual activities like manual stimulation or oral sex. When you start to feel relaxed, he gets into a comfortable position and starts penetrating you with his fingers – slowly at first and then faster and deeper.
Once you're comfortable with that, move on to a sex toy and you can finish having sex with your partner. It is essential to take your time and ensure there is no rush if you want great results.
5. Aftercare is also important
After having sex, don't forget about aftercare – especially if it's your first time. Relaxation and some rest are essential as they allow your body to recover. A good bath or shower can help relax the muscles in your body and relieve pain or discomfort. Drink plenty of water afterwards.